We have a 5 month old son. My wife would like to have a second child. I am happy with one. –(A little more info). My wife is in her early 40′s, I am in my late 30′s. My wife was an only child, I have three siblings. It took us a while to have the first one due to reproduction issues. The doctors did not give us much of a chance without fertility treatments and invetro. We decided at that time we did not want to go through a bunch of treatments. We decided if it happened naturally then grate if not then it was not to be. the day we moved into our new house my wife took the test and found out we were going to have a baby.–
My wife says she wants a second child because she wanted brothers and sisters growing up. I love my siblings but I do not think that is a valid reason either way. I guess my real concerns are health concerns for both mother and baby and the stress of everything again. I really did not like the feeling of watching a clock every month and planning everything around it last time. Then you go through the pregnancy worrying about your wifes health and if you baby will be healthy. Our ages put us at greater risk for health issues with the baby and mother. The stress of just having a baby. My wife said that she would keep working and she is. But is wasn’t long after our son was born that she started talking about staying home and taking care of him instead of sending him to day care. And don’t get me wrong, I do not feel that is wrong in any way. My only thing on this matter is we just moved into a larger house with larger bills and she had said she would keep working. We can not continue to live where we are on my pay alone.
I know no one can answer this for us, but I just feel kind of lost right now. It is one of those issues that can cause problems, and I will admit I am not the greatest communicator. And right now I feel a little resentful at the way she addressed the issue last night. When she first brought it up last night one of her first comments was “I guess you have decided this for us”, then she brought on the crying which I felt like she was trying to put me in a guilt trip. I am open for discussing because I realize we are in this together. But how do we decide if we want different things? I have read several of the other post dealing with this same question and they say to wait a couple of years. That is probably fine for younger couples but we are at the age where we either do it or not.

Thanks for your help.

I had some brown and pinkish spotting when I wiped starting on the 23 of April. Today, it was really light bleeding, but now it kind of feels like a period. My question is since Im never late and I was so late this month, can I still be pregnant since I would’ve just conceived around the end of March or beginning of April? I took 4 dollar store tests and they were all negative. Would it just be too early or am I not pregnant? I can’t go to the doctor because I’m waiting on Medicaid to cut my insurance back on. Im really confused and thought I’d finally get my baby #2, due to being 2 weeks late… Has this ever happened to anyone and you ended up preggo? Or no? And if not, what are some ways to increase fertility naturally because I’ve been ttc ever since my son was about 1 and he will be 5 in June… He needs someone to play with and grow up with.
Yeah I’ve only missed a period twice, once with my son, then once when I got pregnant in 2008, but I miscarried March of 2009. I was about 3 and a half months along. Ok I think I’ll try a different brand test. I just don’t like to buy pregnancy tests because they are so expensive.

I have been together with my husband for about 5 years. We are going through a fertility therapy. He is quite older than me and has already two grown up children. His daughter has recently made him grandad and asks for his regular support. I actually feel frustrated not to be a mother at all.
We do talk about it I feel he doesn’t care as much as me about our possible family.
How do I face all that?

Answer….
Be a high school dropout, use drugs, shack up with an abusive boyfriend and be unemployed. If seems that’s who is having all the children.

Been trying for about 8 months. Both pretty healthy and I came off the pill about a year ago. Even then, I was only on it for a few months.

Two years before this, we were trying also, nothing for a year. But we hadn’t been religiously trying, you know?

I think I’m ovulating, I get a white slimy discharge (I am STD free lol) about 2 weeks after my period every month. Give or take.

I am going to buy the book “Taking charge of your fertility.”

I heard that men can take a supplement that helps sperm mobility. I am going to buy ovulation kits tonight.

My periods are just crazy, every 35-40 days(give or take) so I don’t really know when I am supposed to ovulate.

I’ve heard of something called pre-seed. What does it do?

Also, the egg white like stuff is only to help the sperm get up where they need to be right? Isn’t that what pre-seed is for? Also, about how much is it?

When will your Dr finally put you on clomid? I heard it does wonders lol.

Sorry for the 100 questions! thanks!

i have a period every 180 to 360 days- my doctor just tested my thyroid and i get the results sept. 27- however my husband and i want to get pregnant now- but we just suffered the loss of the ectopic pregnancy- 1.how can we get pregnant again (quickly) 2.are there any herbal rememdies to help fertility
3. does anyone know the name of the procedure where they put ink in you fallopian tubes to test them and is it true 80% of women get pregnant after this procedure?

and finally
4. anyone know any good support groups for people who have had ectopic pregnancies?

First of all, to my pagan friends: I understand that most of the fun stuff I do as a Catholic comes from you guys, and my religion will never compete with one that has a fertility goddess

That being said: Look at Mardi Gras. The entire point of the holiday is: We’re going to be really prayerful and sober the next 40 days, so let’s get as much partying in as we can. How coll is that? After all, i am sure God wants us to have fun on this earth, don’t you? Well I sure had fun this last weekend (I’m from New Orleans)

Lisa Stack, CNY Fertility Support Coordinator, shares information and support and using Vision Boards as a tool. cnyfertility.com

when i have sex i ejaculate maybe a a half a teaspoon on average. if i do it alone maybe even half of that. and i know that is a small amount. i don’t care about fertility but i do want to have More ejaculate. its just that the more you shoot the better the climax. is there anything i can do to get more volume down there?

Because it often happens that one person can change my outlook. So, at least try. Thanks in advance… and bear with me. I’ll try to make it short…

I’m 18. My hubby is 25. Our daughter is 14 months. His daughter is 4 1/2 years.
His ex hates my guts and her and her friends talk shyt on me all the time.
But she left her daughter for 3 whole months with her mom to go off with some guy in another city.
She still lives with her mom (and dad, sister, nephew, fiance, and 2 other ppl) all 300+ lbs
No job, no aspirations. Gets state assistance and child support.
They let the 4 yr old do basically anything. Eat straight butter. The goo outta glo sticks. You name it.

Now before you start asking about ME, I’ll tell you in as short as possible. Found the hubby, fell in love after 2 weeks, engaged at a month, pregnant at 4 months, married a week after that. Pregnancy sucked because of morning sickness I got my ged. Became a SAHM. Never been gone from her for a minute. Don’t smoke or drink or party or do drugs. Take care of 100% her like a mother is supposed to. Keep the house spotless. I massage my hubby every day before work. Make him coffee and breakfast. All of it. 100%. And I don’t mind, because I know someday I’ll get to do me and this is the life I chose and I’m living it. Very well. So I’m not the typical teen mom. I don’t even consider myself a teen. It’s just a technicality that no one gets.

Anyways. We moved 400 miles away from our home town and have to spend $1500 a month to see his kid for 3 days which he only gets to see her 11 hours of because of her mother who purposely take her out of town the first and last day. My baby and I visit my mother and sister while he sees his kid because we are not welcome there in any way.
I really want to change custody to where I can get to see her too and where she can come stay with us a weekend or a week or something like since she’s about to start school– during the summer, xmas and spring break, and us visit her whenever we can. Ya know? It’d be so much simpler and more accomodating to all. But my hubby thinks there will be too much rivalry between them if she stayed here. And he doesn’t want the child support amount to change (since it was put seperately at $500 a month flat in the divorce decree) but I don’t think it could since it was agreed upon, I think she would have to appeal it seperately, just as we would have to appeal the visitation.

Plus I am having medical issues with future fertility and I definitely want another child, but we’re afraid that if we wait much longer, it won’t be possible as cervical, uterine, and/or ovary cancer strikes everyone in our family history before the age of 21. I would want a 100% healthy pregnancy and the only way to ensure that is to do it now, while I’m still healthy. But I’m having second thoughts now because of how little I feel we see him. He is supposed to work 7 days on, 7 days off. But lately, he’s been working an extra day set in. So it’s 8 on, 6 off. But on top of that, once a month he has to work an extra 3 days making it 11 on, 3 off. Those weeks we don’t travel to see her. So on the rare occasion he gets a full 6 days off, it’s wonderful. But usually it’s 4-5. So once sometimes twice a month we go down there and rent a hotel for 2 nights and stay 3 days. Most of that time he is with her, or otherwise occupied (I don’t remember specifics. All I know is he’s not with us) or we spend a tiny bit of time together (mnts, zoo, etc) which is nice. But we never really have any time to just be at home. It’s always rush rush rush. Plus the 10 hour ride down there (we go at night so it’s less traumatic because she loathes car seats). 40 hrs in a truck a month. Wow. That is a lot of wasted time. I hate it.

Plus, at home, I don’t have a TX drivers license, because I’m scared to drive in big cities alone. Traffic scares me. I do ok when he is with me, but otherwise, well, I wouldn’t know. But I’m braving up and getting one this week, along with a car to call my own.

And he is switching to night shifts permanently so we get him in the afternoon 1-2 hrs when he works.

I very much appreciate your help/advice. What should I do about all this?
Oh and we move once a year. His work migrates. Oilfield.
Would that make us “unstable” in court of law?