Female in her late 20s. Has a bachelors degree from 4-5 yrs ago. Was working in business admin, got laid off last yr, in the meantime has worked business admin temp jobs and waitressing jobs along with returning to school to get certified to teach high school science and math. She is done classes in December, starts teaching in january, and will be fully certified in her state in may 2010. When she’s not waitressing or in class, she volunteers at a daycare…the daycare staff thinks she does it to prepare for teaching(even tho she’s getting certified for high school, not early childhood edu) but in reality she does it to prepare for motherhood. Her 2 parttime waitressing jobs dont have healthcare benefits, but she has Blue Cross health insurance she pays for herself.
Health: She is deathly concerned about her fertility. Recurrent miscarriages runs in her family, and she’s had a few of her own several yrs ago. Mother reached menopause early at age 40. She also has extremely high risk of cancer in her family(mother died from it), esp cervical and breast cancers. Before she emptied her savings paying for grad school, she spent a mint on diagnostic testing at a fertility clinic to make sure she’s ok to have kids after her 2 prior miscarriages. Otherwise she is healthy except for high cancer risks.
Finances: Right now she doesnt make much money BUT she has no debt except $7K in student loans from undergrad college yrs, currently deferred since she returned to school. She hasnt taken out a single loan for grad school yet since she a) hates debt and b) doesnt qualify for much due to last yr’s pre-layoff income + having no dependents or equity to her name. Bad part about that tho is shes blown thru her savings paying for grad school with cash. Last yr she paid off her car loan early. She manages her money very frugally. Her credit score is in the mid-high 700s, is never late on a bill. To save money while in school and to hopefully further her relationship, she lives at her bf’s house.
Lifestyle: She had her fair share of party days and “playing the field”, but she is settled down and conservative now…wants to settle down, get married, and get pregnant asap more than anything else in the world. She doesn’t smoke, do drugs, drink(except 1 single glass of wine on rare occasions w/ the bf), nor party. She’s very loyal to her bf. Her hobbies include: cooking, decorating the house for holidays, volunteering with kids, playing with her pets, and obsessing about anything pregnancy-related. She is unhappy with her lack of kids or career right now, feels she’s been waiting too long, and her biggest downfall is she’ll whine about this to her close friends too much.
Family: Her family relationships are rocky at times. Her mom is deceased, she talks to her dad on occasion, but she’s frequently outcasted like a black sheep by her siblings + her mom’s side of the family(which includes grandma, aunt, and cousins). Her dad’s side of the family likes her tho and she has a good relationship with her uncle. Her family + relatives live within an hour of her.
She’s not married but has a live-in boyfriend she’s been with for 2yrs. Bf is 40, traditional morals, has a stable career in the science field, makes decent income, owns a 3bd home in a nice neighborhood. Bf is an all around good guy and her family esp her dad adores him very much. Bf thinks that it’s the man’s job to support his wife and kids, and that a mother’s #1 job should be to care for the kids…this is in total agreement with her values and ideals. Only concern about the bf is that he is very slow with proposing and gets annoyed when she inquires about babies and marriage, claiming she’s “too persistent” even tho she(and her friends) don’t think she is that much. Bf has no kids, never been married before, but was engaged at age 25 but it ended very badly so perhaps he is jaded from that and that’s why he’s slow moving in relationships now(idk maybe?).
Is this girl ready for a baby?
Also, shes a law abiding citizen whos biggest flaw is having a bad attitude about not being pregnant, which she sometimes takes out on her friends. She thinks bums are extremely annoying but on the other hand she donates $$ and cars to charity organizations.
She is a generally nice person who used to be too nice to the point of being used and stepped on by others…but in recent yrs has worked very very hard to learn how to be more assertive and to tell people to “back off”. She is almost as obsessed with assertively standing up to people, as she is with wanting to be pregnant.
She reads tons on the following subjects: pregnancy, politics, news/media hype.
cathrl69, if the guy has traditional morals, then that means he DOES think it is ideal to be married first before having kids, so maybe that’s part of the reason why he doesn’t want to discuss the kid thing?? also, traditional morals includes his belief that although he wouldnt want to have kids before marriage, if it happened, he would marry the girl.
) trying to conceive for almost a year now. I was diagnosed with PCOS 6 months ago and my DR prescribed provera supplements to regulate my cycles. I heard that fertility drugs are very expensive and did some research online and found a supplement called Ovulex that some people used and got pregnant but it’s been discontinued everywhere, so I found a few other herbal remedies…. does anyone know anything about FertilPlus, Fertility Blend and Fertilaid? or any other suggestions?
